Connection

A Facebook friend updated their status with a concern that they were not fully present in their relationship. I’m going to share my response in case someone else is having similar concerns. Maybe it will be helpful.

When I find myself giving partial attention to people, in order to bring full attention I will briefly consider some questions like:

What if I could not, for some reason, see their face again? I’d appreciate every expression.
What if their hand were not within reach of mine? I’d want to reach them.
What if this were our last conversation? I’d want to remember every word.

It may sound a little drastic but it pulls any distracted focus back very quickly.

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By NellaLou

2 comments on “Connection

  1. This is good advice. It is very easy for me to get lost in my own head and take other people for granted. I have a beautiful wife and son but even though I work at home I’m not really mentally there a lot of the time – if you know what I mean. My mind gets so lost in thoughts that I can miss what is actually here. I know that if I don’t work hard to remedy this I’ll regret it later.

  2. “When I find myself giving partial attention to people, in order to bring full attention” . . .

    . . . I will “out” myself to the other person.

    I will come out of the shadows of my own mind and tell the other person that I’m having difficulty staying present in the conversation or situation.

    Then something interesting usually happens . . .

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