A Facebook friend updated their status with a concern that they were not fully present in their relationship. I’m going to share my response in case someone else is having similar concerns. Maybe it will be helpful.
When I find myself giving partial attention to people, in order to bring full attention I will briefly consider some questions like:
What if I could not, for some reason, see their face again? I’d appreciate every expression.
What if their hand were not within reach of mine? I’d want to reach them.
What if this were our last conversation? I’d want to remember every word.
It may sound a little drastic but it pulls any distracted focus back very quickly.